OK guys, I know this is probably not the most original of questions. But I'm kinda like a rookie here and this is my first post so go easy! LOL!
But yah, I would like to know that if you could meet your younger self, knowing what you know now, what would you tell him or her?
I didn't have the easiest of childhoods for many reasons. And growing up, I didn't always feel that I fit in with my peers. In fact alot of the time I tried to mold myself into what they wanted me to be. It's only as I grew older that I learned to embrace what was different about me and created a community of people who were alot like me and I'm better for it. I'm now in my forties, and I know I don't fit the typical forty-something stereotype which I'm pleased about because I'm doing things my way.
I just wish I had someone back then to tell me that while I'd still have problems as an adult (who doesn't?) I'd reach a point where I'd be happy in my own skin.
My advice would be to focus, focus, and focus on career goals, be financially independent and own your own home. And I'm very proud to say I did all of the above! I come from a single-parent family and life was tough. Watching my mom struggle, I knew I wanted to focus on my career and make sure that I would never have to struggle financially. I'm not a millionaire by any means but thankfully I don't have to worry about money the way we did when I was younger.
To create a new life far from where I grew up. The farther the better. I'm happy to say I took my own advice. I'm so glad that my kids are experiencing a lifestyle that's very different to the one I had. Don't get me wrong, I had a great life and childhood but I always knew I wanted more and something different.
I think I'd tell myself that bad times will always pass. It might take longer than I'd like but they will pass and things will get better. The problem is I'm not sure my younger self had the patience to wait so I don't think I'd have taken that on board!
Ooh, I like this question. And welcome, Yogaduck! 😊
What advice would I give myself? To always look out for the wolves in sheep's clothing because they will forever be following me around! Also to understand that the life and souls of the party don't always make the best mates. And Diana King was right - the shy guys are always the best guys! 😉
Your home will be wherever you want it to be. You don't have to be tied to one particular place or feel you need to be somewhere just because you were born there. It happiness and the people around you who make where you live a home.
I also had a difficult childhood so I do feel for you. I still suffer with stress and anxiety but I like to focus on all that it good in my life like my husband, my brilliant kids, my family and friends and the great life I've created for myself. So I would tell my younger self not to feel so down and hopeless because things are going to massively improve when I get older.
The advice I would give myself is exactly the same advice I took myself and without meaning to be smug, I regret nothing! Get out there - see the world! Befriend everyone - you never know what you might learn from them. Learning never stops so don't be afraid to study new things. Never close yourself off from love even after you've been hurt. Take some time to lick your wounds but then get back on the horse.
That not being conventionally beautiful is not a bad thing at all. It makes you unique and you walk your own path in life. And I was still going to ends up with the man of my dreams and one of the best looking men for miles anyway! 😉